Our self-esteem can be affected by the way we look at and treat our lives, either as a game to be enjoyed or as a sport to be won. The way we play life is a mirror in which the reflection is either a happy and contented one or one of determination to win at all cost, within or outside of the rulebook.
Remember those early days in the school playground, playing games that were just simply fun to play? Games with no set rules and no winners or losers, the games anyone could play because being good or bad did not make the slightest difference. Oh happy days!
Then as we grew older the games began to have rules,
It seems natural to us to be compassionate towards others, but why is it we often lose that ability when dealing with ourselves. Perhaps this is an area that should be dealt with in our search for self-development.
I am fascinated about self-development in all of its shapes and forms and have tried and used many systems in my own development. Let’s admit it we all need a confidence or self-esteem boost every now and again especially in today’s fast paced, must succeed lifestyle. But a little word of warning if you considering a little self-development of your own for the first time.
You may be prolonging the agony of the recession without even realising it by the way you communicate with yourself and family. You may be hypnotising your family into deeper financial and mental depression with no way of stopping the downward spiral.
Despite what the politicians may tell us about the recession being over, for many people it is still a stark reality affecting every aspect of their everyday lives. The problem can be made worse by the way we react to our individual situations, the way we think, talk and act towards ourselves, family, friends and even potential employees.
Now I appreciate that when you are unemployed and suffering all the hardships that it can bring that it isn’t easy to go around whistling a happy tune all day, but that is exactly what you need to be trying to do. Consider the alternative, the alternative that you have probably chosen if you are in that unfortunate to be in that position.
Do you allow your frustration to show through, getting angry when family members ask for something you cannot afford? Are you continually criticising others about what they spend their money on? Do you show resentment towards those who are better off than yourself? If you are doing any or all of these things then you are definitely hypnotising yourself deeper into unhappiness and the prospect of a family breakup.
Continually acting like this is programming your mind for more trouble and the only way to stop that happening is to stop hypnotising yourself with frustration and anger and start hypnotising yourself with positivity and calm. Not easy I know, but even the smallest change into a more positive mindset will make a difference and you will amaze yourself at how quickly and easily you can progress.
By regaining some of your confidence and self-esteem, you will feel better within yourself, better to handle your situation and possibly even more important you will appear to be a better person to others, especially to that all important potential employer. So if you are going through the traumas of the recession my advice to stop hypnotising yourself deeper into it and try to take better care of yourself, such as getting exercise and more sleep, practicing yoga, meditation or my top tip of positive self-hypnosis.
Author: Guest Writer – Steve Tallamy who recommends “High Self-Esteem In 21 Days” by Adam Eason
So — Is Golf A Mental Game?
Of course there are various possible approaches to this (no pun intended, golfers!).
Is it a game of mind over matter? Are you nuts to spend so much time at it? Is it an exercise in intimidating your opponent into missing the putt?
Actually, the answer to all three questions is yes. But let’s concentrate on the first one. Mind over matter, mental control, picturing and performing the perfect swing, stroke, contact? Yup, all of these.
As I’ve got older, wiser and slower (physically that is, my mind is still razor sharp and alert!), my golf has got better and better. Despite the loss of power and ever-greater exhaustion coming up the hill on the 18th. And this comes from greater understanding of the techniques involved, less wastage of energy on the unimportant aspects and generally an improved mental approach to the game. Although it’s taken me more than thirty years to reach this point, and my lowest handicap ever, I have often thought that it must be possible to assimilate all the knowledge in a way other than pure practice and experience. And I don’t mean reading magazines either, or, indeed, having endless lessons with the pro which usually destroy your game rather than improve it, at least for the first seven rounds thereafter.
What it really boils down to is the mental approach, as I keep saying. I don’t mean by this discarding the foolish notion that the ball will actually clear the tree in front of you, turn sharp right having done that, sail over the bunker and stop immediately on the narrow green. That ain’t going to happen and we all know it, so why do we keep trying? No, I mean getting an assured rhythm into your game and the certain knowledge that softer is better.
When I lived in France, I would often chat to the pro in the bar. He was quite an elderly pro who had been on the European tour, but had taken on a new wife, some thirty years his junior, spawned a sprog and evidently need the extra income from the lessons he gave during the summer. He had the very annoying habit of never standing still when you were speaking to him, but constantly swinging from side to side, performing little golf swings. He explained that this was what golf was all about, getting the rhythm – and apparently keeping it as well. Okay, that’s one way of doing it, but I now realise that there are other ways of getting this simple message into the brain.
Guest Writer: Chris MacAdie who says check out this e-book Secrets Of Hypnotic Golf written by Andrew Fogg, a Clinical Hypnotherapist who is also a golf fanatic.
I had some really good therapy yesterday evening – laughter therapy.
My son Tom arrived home from Uni last weekend and I introduced him to a sitcom I have been watching over the past few weeks starring Miranda Hart. I had really enjoyed this crazy escapism when first seen but in fact found myself laughing out loud and enjoying more as we sat and devoured episode after episode courtesy of iPlayer.
I think Miranda is a kind of female version of John Cleese and much of the comedy relies on side comments and pulled faces direct to camera in a true Frankie Howard style. Anyway add to that the silly comments Tom and I were making to each other as we watched and my sides were aching.
The point is that this all occurred at the end of a frantic tense sort of day and yet I felt completely relaxed and refreshed as my head hit the pillow and drifted to sleep listening to my favourite music. ( my secret weapon for guaranteed sleep within minutes )
So I was really interested to read a blog today by Karen Brown a Hypnotherapist locally here in Bournemouth / Poole area.
Here is an excerpt from Karens Blog
The Link Between Laughter and Mental Health
Laughter can dissolve distressing situations:
Physiologically, you cannot feel anxious, angry or sad when you’re laughing.
Laughter helps you relax and re-charge your systems:
It reduces stress and increases energy, enabling you to stay focused and potentially accomplich more.
Humour Shifts Perspective:
This allows us to take a step back from the situation and helps us to see or view things in a more realistic light or less threatening light. Psychological distance is created when we can adopt a humorous perspective, which can help us avoid feeling overwhelmed.
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My introduction to the power of hypnosis and self-hypnosis goes back about six years now when I first met Adam Eason at a BNI network meeting. As a former nurse I became fascinated by the physical changes that Adam was able to bring about in his clients just by using the power of their mind.
Power Of The Mind – What an amazing in-built resource we all have and yet in most people it is underused or ignored completely. (more…)