Motivation – Needed Around Here
My Challenge is To Do 30 Blogs During April
Here I am running two days late with my April blogging challenge.
I won’t go into excuse mode, enough to say yesterday and the day before were those sort of days. Should have stayed in bed.
Anyway – troubles sorted and back on track
I just have to CATCH UP.
It was MY decision to take the challenge. It was by choice and I am doing as much as I can to learn from the process and get my list building through blogging well under way. I want to do this and recognise the advantages.
Also My Son Tom Has A Challenge.
Also my son has been training for the London Marathon which is on 22nd April.
Tom is used to physical activity, surfing and climbing – but running is new and a challenge.
He signed up via a Stroke Charity which puts the pressure on.
He has had to train hard and has followed the regime suggested by the marathon organisers. He ran 22 miles last Sunday. The weather was not good and it would have been easy to let that one slip.
I have to be honest he has not really enjoyed the process – but the challenge and reward of raising the money has worked. I don’t think that he will choose to do it again.l But he will do this one and is aiming to do it in less than four hours.
Let’s Look At Motivation And What Is Going On.
There are three things going on when you undertake a project/challenge.
Activation – the decision to do something
Intensity – the amount of effort that goes into doing it.
Perseverance – How long you can keep up the effort
Achieving your goal requires all of the above.
Types of Motivation:
Arises inside of you. Like solving a puzzle just because you want to. YES – want to
Pros – Easy to maintain concentration. Will do it regardless of reward
Cons Can easily be subject to moods.
Comes from outside – eg solving a problem for money, recognition or praise from peers.
Pros – Easy to manufacture using rewards. Makes difficult tasks bearable.
Cons – Prone to procrastination.
How to Find Motivation
If ONLY it was possible for us to enjoy doing everything with intrinsic motivation.
Unfortunately tasks such as paperwork, chores and study often need willpower and rewards to get done.
If you’re feeling apathetic or keep procrastinating on a task, get MOTIVATED by eliminating the excuses.
Dreams get you started, discipline keeps you going
How to get motivated
This stops you from the first step of motivation – starting an activity
1. You’re afraid of Failure
It’s a matter of perspective.
HOW TO FIX IT
Look at all the possible outcomes, including worst-case scenario.
If you fail, will it be really that bad?
If you don’t do the task, what will happen?
Think of the consequences.
This negative outcome should jumpstart you into getting motivated.
2. It’s Too Boring
If you lack the energy to do a task, you’re likely to use your motivation to indulge in something else – like watching TV
HOW TO FIX IT
Focus on the task instead of the time.
By looking at what you need to do, instead of how long it’ll take you, you’ll become more stimulated. With this approach, time should fly as you finish off the activity.
If this isn’t enough, track your progress towards a goal.
Focus on whatever is the smaller of the two: how much you’ve done against how much you have to do.
3. You Just Don’t Feel Like It.
Are you weighed down by an immense feeling of laziness? Then it is time to get organised.
HOW TO FIX IT
You can’t plan your moods, but you can plan your day.
Think about when you are most productive. If it’s early morning or late in the afternoon, then organize your day around this.
If you’re still feeling lazy, try the count down from 10, and start. Once you’re in the zone, you’re more likely to get things done.
4. You Are Too Tired
If you’re struggling to stay awake, then it will be impossible to be motivated.
HOW TO FIX IT
Take care of yourself physically as well as mentally.
Are you stressed out?
- Take time to meditate and exercise.
- How are your eating and sleeping patterns?
- Don’t skip on meals or pull any all-nighters.
- Listen to your body, and if you’re still fatigued, visit your doctor
Please feel free to contact me. Simply drop me an email and I will send you a Relaxation and Melt Stress self-hypnosis audio.
5. You Don’t Know Where To Start
Decision fatique affects everyone. The number of choices you make in a day is inversely related to your mental energy.
HOW TO FIX IT
Create A To Do List
Getting started can be the hardest part, but if you can see what needs doing from the get go, you’re onto a good start.
Include not only what you have to do, but what choices you have to make.
It’ll help you get your priorities in order and help you manage your brainpower usage.
6. You Have Too Much To Do
How can you put effort into something when you have so many other things to do?
HOW TO FIX IT
Get rid of any unnecessary commitments.
Every commitment you make uses up your finite willpower. Learn to say ‘no’ to things and simply focus on what’s truly important in life.
If it’s the sheer size of a task that’s overwhelming you, then divide and conquer.
Feel good about the small successes.
7. You Don’t See The Point
You’re faced with a mid-task crisis. Why I am doing this, exactly?
HOW TO FIX IT
Be clear on the end goal.
Know what you’re doing and why. If it is something boring or unpleasant, accept it is something you need to do to turn yourself into who you want to be.
Think of the future, successful version of yourself. What would that person do right now.
Willpower if like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the better you will be at using it. So stop reading and start doing.
This dear land of mine – Britain – this country came 19th in the new World Happiness Report. That’s about right. Any higher and we might have been embarrassed.
We here in Britain may hold the key to long-term happiness, according to Dr Seligman.
Now come on Doc.
He goes on… Our resilience in adversity suggests that, despite apperances, we are optimists.
More about that below.
Positive Psychology Father
So who is this guy?
Dr Martin Seligman is the father of Positive Psychology.
In 1998 when he was made president of the American Psychological Association (APA) he declared that psychologists needed to study what made happy people happy.
He noted “The most important thing, the most general thing I learned, was that psychology was half-baked, literally half-baked. We had baked the part about mental illness […] The other side’s unbaked, the side of strength, the side of what we’re good at.”
Studies since then by Seligman and other psychologists have explored the effects of positive emotions and the ways they affect health, performance and overall life satisfaction.
When Cameron Was Around:
Whitehall statisticians began happiness surveys on the instigation of former prime minister David Cameron in 2011, as he looked for other measures besides GDP to measure how the country was doing.
Why, Cameron asked, was Britain, like the rest of the developed world, so obsessed with Gross Domestic Product (GDP)? What did this cold, clinical measure of industrial output have to do with how happy or fulfilled anyone actually felt at any given time?
Why not measure GWB (General Well Being) instead?
He argued that, surely, that was more important to people.
Now Look at This – Subjectivity and Culture
These surveys depend on subjective self-reporting, not to mention eliding cultural differences.
In Japan there is a cultural bias against boasting of one’s good fortune, and in East Asia the most common response, by far, is to report one’s happiness as average.
In Scandinavia, meanwhile, there is immense societal pressure to tell everyone how happy you are, right up to the moment when you’re sticking your head in the oven.
Finland, Norway, Denmark and Iceland – in the top spots, suggesting that happiness is strongly correlated to having really good underfloor heating.
The United States ranked 14th in the report. Comments please you guys – you are ahead of the UK
The UK came in 19th, just above Chile, a poor performance until you factor in the possibility that Britons would have been ashamed to finish any higher – that breaking seven on a one to 10 overall happiness scale would be crowing. A 6.714 will do, thank you.
Carol Midgley wrote about this in the Times
The British Method For Being Happy – Keep Calm and Expect The Worse.
She says and I totally agree:
We have an inbuilt guard against unhappiness and it comprises three elements:
1)never saying what we mean.
2)never engaging in social confrontation
3)dourly expecting everything to be crap so that when it is you are never disappointed.
Brits hide their secret optimism via language namely in understatement.
“Mustn’t grumble” – means they are elated
“I’ve been worse, I suppose”, they are at death’s door.
Experience “not bad” we mean it is very good.
Meal “disappointing”, it’s quite possible three of the party died in agony from food poisoning.
Yes there is a British form of optimism: hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
Off to the pub for a therapeutic beer with my mates – now that is happiness.
Dan Gilbert – TED Talk – The Surprising Science Of Happiness
You need 22 minutes to watch this – but it is a great TED talk from 2004. Dan wrote the book Stumbling on Happiness. He argues that us human beings are forever wrong about predicting what will make us happy.
The Surprising Science Of Happiness
Blog Posts To Help Marketing Of Hypnosis Products
Well I have been for my half hour walk and thought through today’s blog listening to a podcast.
I finished my blog yesterday with brief comment about writing your blog to one person. Copy write training is also always talking about this talking to a specific person BUT…
I Find This Hard to do With Hypnosis Products.
Let me explain
If you look around this website you will see that I deal with self-hypnosis audios and videos. I have an online store called Hypnosis For Download. I also have a hypnosis for streaming membership full of all of the audios and videos.
My main interest is a new membership website which is my main focus. The membership site offers training, scientifically researched techniques and so on by Adam Eason author of a book ‘The Science Of Self-Hypnosis’
How DO we get to Promote Hypnosis Products
How to market and identify people when THEY are ready is the conundrum. I can’t make a landing page for every situation and write copy that will meet all of the needs of the shopper.
In fact my marketing approach is to leave the hypnosis for download website in place with well over 200 products.
So it is like having 200 landing pages.
The shop is a lead magnet.
This morning there was a person who had bought a product for Insomnia.
I will in fact offer her more than she thought.
I will give her access to a three day use of our Hypnosis For Streaming membership resource, so she can see the scientific research, education and demystifying resources audios and videos.
Into our funnel she goes to educate and help.
A VIP – as she has bought already.
I want to offer her valuable service which enhances her original purchase.
That is Fine BUT…
Most people would not start at the store though or even think of hypnosis necessarily as a solution.
Take This Example About Raynauds
This is really crying out for a blog post to be written about it – the important thing to offer at the bottom of the blog would be a free copy of melt stress and also three day access to our membership website…
Now I was listening to a radio programme this morning where a lady was talking about having Raynouds Disease.
In fact far from talking – she was describing the pain in a very emotional heartfelt way and was describing how hard it was to button up her coat or get her gloves on.
Now she is not alone, there are 10 million sufferers in the UK – I have just looked on the NHS (our health service in the UK)
Raynaud’s phenomenon is common and doesn’t usually cause any severe problems. … Raynaud’s affects your blood circulation. When you’re cold, anxious or stressed, your fingers and toes may change colour.
Now the lady on the radio was saying that her Raynauds flared up and was worse when she felt stressed or anxious.
What am I thinking when I hear stories like this? I just wanted to send her Melt Stress – one of our audios.
Now I could really tell that story in a lot of detail and hopefully include an audio recording from the programme where she is describing the pain
People Come To Hypnosis in a Variety of Ways.
Adam Eason – the Hypnotherapist I have been working with developing his College of Hypnosis business became a hypnotherapist because he found hypnosis to be a cure for his psoriasis.
All other medications and treatments had failed and he was desperate for a solution. Adam was shocked when he followed a recommendation to go to a hypnotherapist and that the hypnosis worked within a few days. On from there to where he is today a leading authority and author on the subject.
I Wish I Had Learned All About Hypnosis While I Was Nursing
Before I met Adam in 2005 – I had no idea about the hypnosis, cognitive behavioural therapy, NLP and other talk therapies.
As I worked alongside Adam filming his courses and producing his audios and videos I took it all on board.
Not in an academic way – NO – I USED the self-hypnosis audios and techniques.
For instance: I used to sweat profusely before speaking publicly and now that is a thing of the past. Now this was a real problem as I was often teaching in a Nursing School. In the Middle East I used to wear a jacket simply because i wanted to hide my perspiration. That looked weird in that climate. But there you go – what we will do to overcome something that was just a mental issue. Since hypnosis therapy – that has gone – a thing of the past.
I used “Think Yourself Thin” to get my fat belly in check. The stories I could tell you about my weight. Sounds like another blog to me leave it there today..
What Are Potential Customers Perceptions Of Hypnosis
The point I am struggling to make is that everybody is in a different place all of the time and with different perceptions about hypnosis.
In fact there is an education necessary in so many potential clients.
I know a lot of Hypnotherapists who have been well trained – But they have to win confidence to get going.
We will explore the perceptions and oh YES the misconceptions of mental therapies another day.
I am Going to Let You Into a Secret.
The best people to provide that education are other users.
But my main target are happy customers and hypnosis users who want to become affiliates. They can tell the true worth of these mind therapies.
Something Different Tomorrow
We will have a bit more fun tomorrow. With something off of the wall. Why not!
I don’t know what at the moment but I will decide in my 30 minute walk in the morning.
Emotions In January Has Affected Our Marketing In the Past
Since I have been involved with Adam Eason putting together self-hypnosis products I have noticed many things that have affected our marketing in January. I have to admit that I have always thought that marketing in January is different.
In fact January is such a STRANGE month that I have waited till the last week to set the promotion going for our new Membership area – Hypnosis For Streaming
So what is it with January
When planning this blog post I was looking for some quotes about January but instead came across a great blog from Halfords the bike company called ‘The Five Emotions Of January’.
Brief summary of Halfords Blog:
Ahhh January. You’re certainly not our most loved month. Reflecting on a good old knees up over the festive season brings a smile to your face, but then the crashing reality of getting back to work and tackling those new goals sets in. But alas! We are all riding the rollercoaster together, so buckle up and revel in the fact that you are not alone…
The emotions highlighted in the blog were:
- Week 1 Motivation – I will do etc
- Week 2 Mourning (no money, diets yuck, exercise etc)
- Week 3 Realisation (over thinking – I don’t get this)
- Week 4 Desperation (sell possessions)
- Week 5 Elation – PAY DAY!
Thanks – Lizzie at Halfords – good blog post.
This Year I Have Been Busy In January – Not Marketing The Usual Products…
Every year we run tweets and adverts about all the things you people out there want to achieve in the coming year. We know we have tools that can help make those things happen.
What does the New Year resolutions list look like? (Without looking I am sure you can guess.)
- Get fit,
- Improve Health – especially stopping any addictions, smoking, excess alcohol and so on
- Control weight and look good on the beach this summer
- Be motivated seek new opportunities for sucess
The problem is that although January comes in with a flash, bang, lets party!!
Then what happens – how does January work out?
Pretty murky outlook really: (some of this only applies to the northern hemisphere – but Australia has been rather hot)
- The days are short – dark
- The weather – well so no more
- The papers are full of Blue Monday – the most depressing day of the year – credit card bills are hitting the doormat
- No money until the end of the month
- Flu and colds
- Long waits in hospitals
Conclusion – What hope for our New Years Resolutions – might as well hit the bottle [a note here – I am only kidding].
My Marketing – Actually Not in Existence – Has Been Different This Year
This year I have had a different approach though. Forced upon me because I had other objectives.
I have been setting up a new approach to getting the Hypnosis For Download products out in a different way. The Hypnosis For Download online store and downloading of files will continue BUT most people will find this streaming approach easier and flexible.
The strategy is to make self-hypnosis products available from a membership area.
Hypnosis For Streaming Membership
Membership Option – Here is the logic / thinking / give it a go / honest reasons for the changes
[Here It Is In a Nutshell]
**We have a large number of products in the Hypnosis for Download website – a large resource / library of self help products.
** Members will be able to select a large range of combination of products that meet their specific needs.
**Videos about self-hypnosis skills and other psychological techniques available to all members
**Also we want to encourage members to invite others to join AND reward them for doing that.
**Personal, **Secure, **High Value, **Supportive Service **Online Income
**THAT’s THE AIM
More About the Membership Option
1. Make the Products Easily Available – I know – in fact I ABSOLUTELY know – that the Self-Hypnosis products we have can help so many of those New Year Resolutions. Easier. Faster. Permanently. By making the products available from any device using your login details your access is flexible, secure, mobile and private.
2. Teach How To Use:- Some of the videos and audios in the membership website are aimed at showing you all about self-hypnosis and other psychological skills. These are products that in the past were expensive to purchase and download. In the membership area they will be available to all members and help improve the use and effectiveness of the self-hypnosis products.
3. Personal Selection:- Members will be able to select and choose any combination of the library of self-hypnosis choices. Mix and Match hypnosis.!!
4. Ease of Access:– Having run the support desk for Hypnosis For Download, I can tell you first hand, that people have problems with large products and downloads and lose the files or computers crash with everything lost etc etc !!!! . SO … What we are doing now is putting digital products into secure storage areas and delivering them directly over the internet. Streamed delivery to any laptop, tablet, mobile phone using login details. Available anywhere in the world (as long as phone network or wifi etc.) The whole process will be simpler and cheaper to deliver when everything is in place.
5. Personal and Avoiding Embarrassment:- You may not think this is a big one, but it is. If you have an addiction or sexual issue that you want to overcome, and you know there are products out there to help you – it takes courage to actually order them. In the members area, all products of a personal nature are available to you. Nobody knows what self-hypnosis sessions you are using. They are available to all members.
6. Incredible Value:- We want people to be using these great products created by our Hypnotherapists. We are a business though and keen to make a living and what I really want to achieve is extensive delivery so that low cost is not an issue. We have to do the maths. All members joining now will definitely get the best deal. £7.50 per month.
7. Exclusive Affiliate Links:- The best marketing for any busy is word of mouth. There is a great opportunity for members to refer and the reward is great. You will get 50% commissions for members you refer. Your turn to do the maths. Two new referred members and you will have free membership as your monthly payment will be equal to your commissions. More members you have a monthly income.
8. Further Opportunities:- Not going into this just now but members who are interested in increasing affiliate income we will be talking to you.
9. Products For Non Members:– We will keep the Hypnosis For Download store open with the abilility to download products if that is what you prefer to do. BUT We have already started offering individual self-hypnosis session as streamed products using links the members area just for a specific product.
The Current State Of Play.
For two months now we have been uploading the many hundreds of audio and video files to a new encrypted secure area in Amazon Web Services.
We are at the point where there are about two thirds of the files in place.
All of the products that are currently available in our Hypnosis For Download online shop will be added within the next three weeks. We have concentrated first on the bigger programmes.
Last Week Of January
So here we are in the final week of January when it is probably the best time to reassess your New Years resolutions.
Why not try out a membership at Hypnosis For Streaming Membership area – where you will have a huge amount of Self Help resources.
DON’T FORGET – With a couple of referrals who become members you will have this massive library resource available for NOTHING. And you are in a place to make some money as well.
Elation at the end of January!!
Come join us – JUST £7.50 to join and check out.
HYPNOSIS FOR STREAMING MEMBERSHIP
If you have any questions please contact me at Support Desk
Self-Hypnosis Streaming for 2018
About this time of year I would usually be putting out adverts in our Hypnosis For Download ecommerce store for ‘Think Yourself Thin’ or ‘Stop Smoking Now’.
But NOT this year – 2018 is different.
On offer are loads of products – in fact – well over 200.
Furthermore you will get products such as ‘The Science Of Self-Hypnosis’ and ‘Hypnosis Revealed’ which are great for educating you all about how to use self-hypnosis effectively.
The ‘Science of Self-Hypnosis’ product is an online support for this book …
There are so many misconceptions about hypnosis because of the theatrical hypnosis stage acts. People get the impression (and it is often magnified by the performers presentation manner and words) that the hypnotist is controlling the audience participants. This is totally not the case.
That is a tragedy as far as I am concerned as I know the therapeutic use of hypnosis is powerful and effective when delivered correctly – and the user is totally in control – AFTER ALL it is SELF-HYPNOSIS therefore it has to be SELF CONTROL.
I wouldn’t be the slightest bit interested if that wasn’t the case. I am a church going christian and some of the people I meet at church have the same question about the control of someone else. I am going to shout again – NO IT IS NOT!!
Being in Hypnosis is Like…
When sportsmen are preparing to compete – they get in the zone (that is the closest analogy I can give) When the kids are up stairs watching TV and you call them to dinner – they are mesmerised by what is going on – they are hypnotised – and that is why they don’t hear you. Hypnosis is focused imagination. A layman’s explanation I know as I am not a hypnotherapist.
In the picture above you will see the sub title of the book – ‘The Evidence Based Way To Hypnotise Yourself’. That is a much better message. In the book there are a range of methods, for anyone to apply to achieve
- a hypnotic mindset,
- develop hypnotic skills,
- induce self-hypnosis,
- deepen the experience of hypnosis,
- apply a range of evidence based techniques and strategies for self-improvement.
Now the online ‘Science Of Self-Hypnosis’ takes all of the book content and provides audio recordings of the techniques.
In the educational part of the Hypnosis For Streaming I have made sure that the training comes first as it is ideal to have the best approach for the hypnosis sessions to work effectively.
So at the top of the membership area there are 4 educational products.
The membership has over 200 self-hypnosis products – some of them being fully narrated programmes. I know because it has taken me well over 100 hours in December to add them to the ‘Hypnosis For Streaming’ membership site. If you want to see all of the products you will have access to as a member – just look through HypnosisForDownload.com. They will all be in there.
About half of the products are in there at the moment – the aim is to get them all in there by the end of February.
Here is the good bit.
Members Can Become Affiliates
I have been trying for some time to get affiliates on board to help promote the products. In many ways it is difficult for affiliates to promote very small priced hypnosis sessions. So I wanted to overcome that problem.
Also it is also vitally important that affiliates know as much as possible about the product they are selling.
So let me be honest – I had to think about this one.
I was lucky as I joined a website (which I will tell you more about another day) and I liked their structure and the strategies used there. I liked it so much that I have nicked their ideas.
- I am only letting people who are members become affiliates – because they will know about the product and will be able to give testimonials etc.
- There is an incentive for the affiliates to do something – this is more important than I thought.
- Just getting two new members will mean that the affiliate will cover his/her own membership cost and have free access.
- After that the affiliate will earn monthly commissions on referred members.
So would you like to join me?
It is only $10 a month to join – and you will get access to skills that can help you — AND — access to a private affiliate package offering 50% commissions on members you refer. The same rules apply to those members as well.
The prices are in USD as the membership is open to anyone anywhere.
Bad habit and pills – that sounds as if I have an awful tale to tell. Let’s see!
Tablets and a bad habit are on my mind this morning. Yesterday I went to get my repeat prescription for the barrow load of tablets I have to take. BUT – there was an issue ( I still don’t understand what – but there you are – it is a fact ) and the prescription needed to be set up again by my doctor and with luck and a strong wind they will be there by tomorrow.
So by rooting around in the medicine cabinet, I found I had got enough for this morning.
And then Goodness me – NO!….
We were out of Activa or Yoghurt!! Was this going to be one of those days?
Why was that a disaster – well years ago I had to get over something that for me was an issue. I just couldn’t swallow tablets – no matter how small.
How crazy are we all?
Bad habit – it surely was. I could eat normally – but a tablet in my mouth was a gagging starter.
The time came though where I had to get over this problem. I had got to get over this as my health depended on me ‘taking the pills’.
Porridge and yoghurt became the answer. Within no time I was swallowing tablets easily as long as it was with a yoghurt or similar.
Today – this morning – I had no yoghurt or porridge. Question? – was the bad habit still there.
So I gave it a go – glass of water and what happened? It was fine – there was no issue at all. That is the first time I have tried to take tablets with water for many years. Isn’t the mind weird but wonderful?
Now there is a really important thing here about making changes to your mindset.
Changing Bad Habits – It’s Hard
Conventional wisdom is that it takes 28 days to free yourself from a bad habit. Unfortunately, that notion is just plain wrong. Bad habits are hard to break because they are Habits (notice the capital H). Remember: your brain has put your bad habit in the “automatic” category. Once there, it’s difficult to shake it free.
Yes, 28 days can give you a good jump start. It is probably longer and more like three months to substitute a new behaviour for a bad habit.
But I know from working with Hypnotherapist Adam Eason that behaviours and bad habits can be changed – helped by hypnosis or self-hypnosis.
The definition Bad – can be interpreted quite widely. Laziness is a good example:
Let’s say that laziness is a bad habit or maybe poorly motivated is like a bad habit. Then why not get a new mindset on that one.
There is a very popular product in our online hypnosis downloads store called From Lazy to Driven
You Must Want To Change to Make New Good Habits
What ever you own personal issues (yes you have them) make it your first resolution for 2018 – “I am going to get rid of that bad habit” That is the FIRST part of going about changing a bad habit – WANTING TO DO IT.
On the sales page for ‘Stop Smoking Now‘ – Adam asks the question – Do you really want to stop? He then suggests that you should not purchase the product if you haven’t already decided that you want to do it. Nothing will work until you have made that decision.
The arguments for stopping smoking are enormous and a smoker can be shown every reason to stop. NO GOOD until the smoker has taken that first step. The first step is you making up your mind.
That is the same for all habits.
Want to make the change and self-hypnosis will totally help you change your mindset and adopt a new self image and new mindset that supports that inner feeling. The change eventually becomes the new reality.
Look through hypnosisfordownload.com and think about your new year resolutions. As you look at the titles of the self-hypnosis sessions – ask yourself – do I really want to change that.
A really important point.
Never buy a self-hypnosis product for someone else. Get them for yourself as you are the only one who knows what changes you really want to make..
You can change AS LONG AS YOU WANT TO.