Memories Of Our Children

Memories Of Our Children

My Memory - What Premiership Football Match?

If football is not your thing -  please don't let that stop you reading this as I think there is a really important message in this story.

On Sunday my wife Babs and I called round to see our son Tom and in fact our daughter in law Vanessa as they had just returned from there honeymoon.

One of the topics of conversation was Scott Parker who is now Manager of Bournemouth football club our local team.

Now this has never happened to me before and it totally took me by surprise.   Tom chipped in with something that I could not remember AT ALL.  

He told me when he had first seen Scott Parker was at a football match that I had taken him to.  It was  a football match Southampton versus Charlton and Scott Parker had scored and fabulous goal.  The story went further, Tom told us that I had gone to the toilet and had missed the amazing goal scored by Scott Parker.

WHAT!!  I thought my memory was good - but this had really jolted me.

I just cold not remember ever taking Tom to a professional football match.

With the going to the loo story added I thought he was joking.

A few months ago I was with a friend at an Arsenal football match and I thought that it was a shame that I had never taken my son to a football match ever.

The problem was that Tom was a sports lad and played football and swam competitively.  So I was a constant taxi every weekend to his events - no time for being a spectator.

When we got home I asked Babs to look up in her diaries.   She has kept diaries throughout the years and are great for looking up anything we have got up to.

There it was Sunday December 7th 2003 I had taken Tom to Southampton versus Charlton.  He was 12 years old.    

My Excuse!

In fact it was a very busy weekend for me because on Saturday evening I travelled up to London Airport leaving at 5pm to take my daughter Zoe to catch a Quantas plane to Australia.   She was only 15 years old and in those days there was a service for unaccompanied yougsters up to that age travelling on a long haul flight.  It was in fact excellent and from the moment we had arrived at the airport there was one of the stewardesses alloted to take care of Zoe.  Real VIP treatment for me as well as Zoe in the departure area.

We had worked in Muscat, Oman in the Middle East for eiqht years  and the expats working there were from all over the world.  One of Zoe's school friends was Anna Deeley who was from Australia.  

Great as working abroad was - there is a time to return.   All very well except that Zoe and Tom were not so keen to return as they knew very little about UK.  The truth is they were very upset by the huge change in lifestyle.    Zoe was 9 years old when we returned and she knew exactly how to stick the knife in.   She had a photo of here Muscat schoolmates right beside her bed and when I went in to say goodnight she would ask questions like "Dad when am I going to see my real friends again?"

How do you answer that?

Even in the early days of the internet Zoe was able to keep in touch with her former school friends which lead to her getting invited to go to Australia to stay with Anna's family.

Nothing nicer, Christmas in sunny summer Ozzie with friends you were longing to be with.  Babs put in her diary that  Zoe was buzzing with excitement.

In fact - Zoe was still flying southward when Tom and I were at the football match,

So that is my defence - my mind was miles away!!   (ok - just a pun!)

I am assuming that we arranged the football match as something exciting for Tom as his sister was clearly over the moon.

I have to admit I still can not recall going to that football match.

There is one further thing that is worth comment.   Tom's memory of the match was not totally accurate.  He thought that I had missed the only goal of the match.  In fact it was Southampton 3 and Charlton 2.    

I have in fact now seen the goal that I missed going to the loo.  
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CZksTLDTUo4

I Want To Know What Else I Have Forgotten

There are many times that I have thought - I wish that I had asked my parents more about my memories of the past.   I can't now as they have passed.

What I now intend to do when we are talking among ourselves as a family is to ask the kids about their memories of their upbringing years.  

I would like to know what else I have missed.

Doing Something For The First Time

Doing Something For The First Time

My First Life Changing Moment

I am smiling to my self as I sit down to write this blog. 

I was reading a blog by Mary O'Toole https://www.keepthestories.ca/when-was-the-last-time-you-did-something-for-the-first-time/  

Mary asks: When was the last time you did something for the first time?

I am smiling because when I think about my first times there were many of them and they all have countless stories with them.   So I am writing here about my first FIRST TIME

Thank Goodness For Malcolm

Isn’t it strange how very small events and random situations can change your life – permanently

I was 19 and working as an apprentice following a HND course in electronics engineering.  This was in a Marconi Research Unit in Chelmsford in 1966.  I had very little career advice from school or anywhere.  It was assumed by everyone (including my parents) that engineering was the future for me as Maths Pure, Maths Applied and Physics were my 'A levels'.

And that is what I thought – I would become an engineering scientist.

So there was I with my oscilloscope, admittedly rather bored, as I worked on goodness knows what projects.  I looked at research scientists that had been there for years and began to wonder about this as a career.

AND then it happened…

A top scientist guru (I still remember his name – Malcolm) came in to work full of the joys of spring.  He had been working for about eight years on a new transmitting aerial.  His design had been accepted and the company were going ahead with production beyond his prototype.  His moment.  He was full of it.

Now let me tell you more about Malcolm.  

We had heard a lot about his aerial.  Sitting down for lunch we would all talk about football, holidays, what was on the box, girlfriends.   None of that for Malcolm – apart from his aerial I really knew nothing about him.

What next?  

Four of us apprentices were invited to go and see his work of art!  I wasn’t sure where this was but I should have taken note as Malcolm put on wellington boots, a hat and gloves.  Being 19 I had very little to shield me from the elements.  We were driven through the Essex countryside on a freezing cold winter morning and arrived at a field with a hanging fog.

What became immediately plain to us lads was that we were to go over the field and climb a mast that disappeared into the fog.  

These days Health and Safety would just not allow what happened next.  With freezing cold hands, gripping on to freezing cold metal ladders we were to climb this mast.

We were all looking at each other in disbelief.

Did Malcolm notice?

Not at all.

Malcolm just kept on talking – ABOUT his aerial and what made it so good.

Anyway we all got up to the platform and there it was – his aerial – about the size of a dining room table.  Lots of fiddly bits and so on.

The tuition from Malcolm carried on “the frequency response of this ….blah blah blah ….attenuation ….. blah blah blah …. and the amplitude  ……  blah”

The words were drifting over me – in one ear out of the other.  I can totally recall that I stood there thinking about his wife.  What did he go home from work and talk about.  What did he talk about to anyone.

Something much more important had happened to me.  

At that moment I realised that I would never be a top engineering scientist because I could not put that much passion and devotion into a LOAD OF METAL

That was it!!!

I put in my notice.


Then There Was My Dad

Now that sounds neat – but of course what was I going to do.  There was no plan B.

My dad was a very blunt Yorkshire man and life had not been good for him.  He didn’t come out of the war well and was not a well man.

To put it bluntly he was not imptressed with me leaving a course during the first year.

I got the “we tried to give you the best we could" talking to.

Along with – “what are you going to do now?”

My initial reaction was that I thought that teaching would fit me better but there was some time to wait before I could get on a teacher training course.

My Dad:  “What are you going to do till you start your teaching course?”

Me: “I will randomly select a job in the local paper and go for it”

Dad: “What?”  (a very exasperated huffy what)

And that is what I did.

I opened the jobs page, shut my eyes, wiggled my finger around and it landed on ‘Spastics Society House Father’  (Now called Scope). at Kelvedon Spastics Society Education Centre.

AND I got the job.

It was a further education place for severely disabled adult students who were exceptionally intelligent.   For example one of them was a political history expert who wrote for various papers.   He typed with a  pointer stick strapped to his head.

I was 20 years old and what an experience it was – the students were quickly my friends.  It was hard work and I lived in so I never really felt off duty.  

What a difference it all was from the oscilloscopes and aerial developments at Marconi’s.  

I really fitted in with the care work but I wasn’t trained .

Then I met a nurse and that really led to my next change moment in my life.

My future was beckoning.  I realised that I needed to train in nursing.

Thank you Malcolm for that day up the mast.  

From Metal to Nursing.

Come On Arsenal – I Have £10 At Stake!

Come On Arsenal – I Have £10 At Stake!

Why The Image At The Bottom Of This Page?

Oh here we go again!!

The premiership football season began this weekend, and it didn't start well for me. 

If you are football, baseball, netball anywhateverball fan you will be right into what your club is up to.   

Football has a special place in the hearts of many people. It is an iconic sport that has been around for decades. From the elation of victory, to the frustration of defeat, football fans have felt it all.   

Being a fan can be a very painful experience as I can reveal in this story. 


Why a Gunners Fan?

Why am I an Arsenal ('Gunners') fan.   

Well my son Tom is behind that...  as I was originally a Middlesbrough supporter.

My father was from Middlesbrough in Yorkshire but I was brought up in the south of the country.  

The only football matches I saw in my youth, were the occassional opportunities when Middlesbrough came to play a southern club.

I was basically a  Middlesbrough  fan, and I followed what they got up to and so on. 

On the other hand.

Tom my son, for some unknown reason, I really don't know why, Is a Manchester United fan - let's just call them a top club.

Now neither myself or Tom are into betting so I was surprised whenTom suggested this. "Let's have a small bet each season:  First bet would be which of our teams came highest in the Premiership and another about who would go furthest in the FA Cup".

Hang on!!   Man United versus MIddlesbrough.  Not a goer.   However. I liked the idea.  So I needed to get a top team to  become an adopted fan

I had to pick a team that would stand a chance against Man Utd

Well I had lived in North London, and I had always liked the way that Arsenal played when they were managed by Arsene Wenger.  

So that was that an adopted fan.

Back in 2008 Tom and I started our yearly bet at the start of the new season the amazingly small bet of just £10 

BUT small as the bet is it adds a funny but competitive edge to the season.

Some years Tom would win the Premiership and I would win the FA Cup.  Sometimes me, sometime him but for the last couple of years he has won both bets.


First Match Of The Season Against Promoted Brentford!

Arsenal has not settled down with a new manager since Arsene Wenger left in 2018

The latest manager is Mikel Arteta who played under Arsene Wenger.  Wenger had an attacking approach and changed attitudes towards nutrition, fitness and coaching methods.   

Last season Arsenal only finished at position 8.  Not at all accceptable BUT it was manager Arteta's first season in charge.

Arteta has just started his second season as the manager so I was really hoping that the first match of the season would get us going.  

My Gunners season ticket holder friend Derek, had his doubts.  Here was his WhatApp message to me just before the match "What are your thoughts on tonights game?  I am worried we will be embarrassed"

So why the concern?

Arsenal was playing Brentford who won promotion last season and this was their first premiership game.  They had not been in the top level of football since May 1947.

Now as I have revealed above I am merely in the adopted fan league.  If you want too see fans and born and bred loyalty fans check out Brendford.

Fans have been known to go through the emotional rollercoaster with their favorite teams. 

Football fans are passionate about this sport and will not let anything get in their way when it comes to supporting their teams no matter what happens.

The atmosphere at the Brentford home ground with the fans allowed in for the first time after the pandemic lockdown was electric.

The crowd was cheering, singing, clapping,waving and one old man was on the TV with tears running down his face.

The Brentford team was up for it and it pains me to tell you any more.  Arsenal were playing in a cauldron.

Final Score:  Brentford 2 - Arsenal 0

Derek sent a WhatsApp after the match...


arsenal-survival-kit


What about my Tom's team? 

You've probably guessed it: Man United 5 - Leeds 1

Great start - however there are another 37 games this season - so get them going Arteta.

Cancer Eight Years On!!

Cancer Eight Years On!!

Day Out In London With The Kids

The idea was quite simple. I had a journey up to London on the train which meant I was going to be travelling for 4 hours.

Perfect for writing a blog. 

I write a blog on the train, by talking into Otter software programme that turns speech into text. 

I hadn't taken one thing into consideration. 

I have to come up to London, every four weeks for my cancer treatment. And normally, the train is quite quiet. 

What I'd forgotten, was that this is August,  the children are off school, andwith their parents are visiting museums, such as the science museum or Madame Tussauds or whatever holiday attractions.

So the train was full of very noisy, happy, elated, kids. 

Question;  how was I going to type on my phone because talking into Otter software was not going to work. 

So I did as best as I could, just by typing with my finger on the phone

That was yesterday, and finishing it off today.

Three Years Of Treatment And Not Wilting

What I'm writing about very briefly today is my cancer treatment. 

I don't write about it much, because there's nothing to write. It's three years now since I started having immunotherapy treatment, and eight years since the start of my cancer treatment, which started off with the removal of one of my kidneys.

This is important, please take note of the fact that I'm talking about eight years ago. 

Unfortunately for me the type of cancer cells involved were papillaryl cells which were not good for the treatments available. 

However, there was a clinical research, just about to start. For treatments for my type of cancer, and I was offered the opportunity to join that clinical research programme, which I accepted as there were no other options. 

I was not offered a cure. The whole plan was to control any growth or spread of the tumour, which has been incredibly successful.

Of course it's not great to have a cancer, and I have to learn to live with the fact, as do millions of other people. You have a one in two chance of getting a cancer.  Yes, fifty percent!

Every case of cancer is specific and different for every patient, and the treatments and severity vary. 

The IMPORTANT thing to get on board, is that most cancers, as long as you catch them early enough, can be treated with the scientific advances of modern medical technologies. 

I Am Old Enough And Wise Enough To Have An Opinion

As best as I can I have everything under control. 

I have the treatment every four weeks and I have a scan every three months to see what is going on. I had a scan yesterday, and in a couple of weeks time, I will go and see the consultant and chat about the latest scan. 

Apart from that, I can just get on with my life.  If you've been reading my blogs you will know I'm looking forward to getting a motorhome.

This is my philosophy and I am old enough at 73 years of age to have an opinion or two.

Life is for living, every single day. 

In fact, the most important thing you can do as far as I'm concerned, is stay positive. In my nursing days, I found that the people that thought negatively tended not to react to treatment, very well; whereas those that were positive, by and large, had recovered quickly and moved on. Just move on in life. 

Oncology Department Newbies

OK - it is hard for the mind when you first hear that your diagnosis is a cancer.   If you or someone you know is entering the Oncology department for the first time there are inevitably some anxieties and apprehension.

I hope these two  blogs that I wrote three years ago when I was new to it all will  give you some encouragment.

Cancer Screening Not Keeping Track With Cures

Explosion and Shock in my Cancer Treatment

Public Thank You and Moving On

On the whole you will find that everyone is very supportive.  And the oncology nurses and doctors involved are incredible. 

I admit though that I got concerned when the clinical research nurse that had been my support during the earliest days  of my treatment, was moved away from the department to help elsewhere in the hospital during the pandemic.  Anna had got to know me so well and had been the person to deal with all my questions and concerns.

However, what happened. The replacement nurse, Heather was also a gem.  Keep the faith.

I wish there was something I could do to reward them for their incredible help and support. I suppose that this blog is really a thank you.

Well - until I write about cancer again in three years time - I will move on and enjoy my life and have fun with my wife Babs, family and friends.

Quite Pointless And Sad Passing!

Quite Pointless And Sad Passing!

It is not often you will find me deadly serious but I am today.  I am on my soap box.

My career was nursing and there are a couple of things that make me get my megahorn out.

Prevention so much better than trying to cure - vaccinations etc.  (remember Wakefield and all his nonsense about Measles jab)

Early diagnosis - don't live with your worries about a lump, rash or whatever - get it seen early

So why my post about this today?  

Eighteen months ago there was no cure for covid.  

In fact in my personal situation my oncology consultant told me I was highly vulnerable and the really important thing was not to catch it.  All the distancing, staying home and so on.

AND

Here we are 18 months later with an effective vaccine and better chances for anyone that gets this deadly and I mean DEADLY virus - which has not gone away.

Most of the people I know are now double jabbed and it means I have at last been able to get out of my shell.  

Some of the people I know have not been vaccinated - and I am giving them a wide berth.  What are they thinking?  

This blog is for them.

OK - So what happens when these clever scientists are elated with the initial take up of the vaccine - they are delighted of course.

BUT then out of the shadows comes social media nonsense - whatever you like to call them...

So Easy To Have Stopped This Happening

I decided to write this blog because I know the family of Leslie Lawrenson are urging everyone to get the vaccine so that their families don't  experience the same thing.

There are stories like this everywhere now but this one was in the Bournemouth Echo and the quotes are from the family.

anti-vaxxer dies at 58

Leslie was a 58 year old solicitor.   

Yes - please take that in.

Here is  Stepdaughter Carla's 35 thoughts

"He was a really well educated who ended up in the rabbit hole about the vaccine. thinking that if he got the virus he would be ok."
"I go through emotions feeling sad and frustrated.  There's so much out there, it's easy to get wrapped up in conspiracy theories, the anti-vaxxers game is strong."
"He was just convinced natural anitbodies could fight this and said that the vaccine was not fully approved."
"My mum would talk to him about it, everything she would say he would have a counter argument for, she was scared to have it and scared to not have it."
"If you are on the fence, sit down and look at what has happened to my family."
"My 11 year old brother now doesn't have a dad anymore.  Our life is not going to be the same as it was six weeks ago, it's completely different."

Thanks Jennifer Anniston - Well Said

Thankfully there are more and more people talking sensibly.

One of my acting favourites is Jennifer Anniston.  There is she believes a "moral obligation" to do so and "we have to care more about more than just ourselves."
"There's a large group of people that are antivaxers or just don't listen to facts." she tells 'InStyle' magazine.  "It's a real shame."

Well said Jen.

AND thumbs up to, of all people, Arnold Schwarzenegger who recently said on Twitter: "Know your strengths and listen to the experts.

Please STOP And Think And Look At Real Scientific Facts

To complete I want to add my condolences to the Lawrenson family.

I hope, like you Carla, that somebody reading this will just stop and think NOW and take a simple action  before it is too late for their families also.

Retirement or Part Time Online Income – Maybe For You?

Retirement or Part Time Online Income – Maybe For You?

This Online Income Secret Plan

I have been working all this year to put together my Hypnosis For Streaming package with a simple online income plan for affiliates

The real SECRET is to read this page and take ACTION. 

Any questions at all JUST call me on 07401 719619 or Skype keithaw2k1 me.

Online Income – No Age Barrier – Please Read This And Fully Understand My Plan.

 

Each week I join a group of people on a weekly masterclass in internet marketing and making online income.   In fact the timing of the online meeting is a nuisance to me because I have to get back from badminton and am always hot and disheveled – we are visible on the screen to other participants – I might not look good but it is great that they can’t smell me.

The participants on the Zoom (great webinar service) masterclass call are a great source of knowledge – and I never want to miss the session.  I will tell you more about David and Jen who run this group, below.

The participants all have different niches products, experience etc.  One lady is a gardener and she is learning how to put out information products about her field.

The Online Income Issue

There is a fundamental issue though with making money online.  You need to know how to do it. 

It doesn’t just happen.  When doing anything online – you have to learn a few tricks to make things happen. 

The knowledge you need gets labeled as Internet Marketing;

  • building mailing lists
  • driving traffic
  • social media promotion
  • etc etc and so on – always more to learn

Yes – Lots to learn – but great fun when you begin to see the action happening and income coming in.

All Great If You Have Products – But What if You Don’t?

Well – One of the best ways to make money online is to sell other peoples products.

NO that is not strictly TRUE  —  It is about pre-selling – but that is part of the training.

Affiliate programs are what you join and GUESS WHAT!  I have one which I am inviting you to join.  More about that below – but first of all some background knowledge – an inside look into my thinking. 

 

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BACKGROUND:

[**PLEASE NOTE** I Have Moved Away From This BUT It Explains Why I Made Big Changes]

 

Last year I set up an affiliate program for an online E-commerce store  –  HypnosisForDownload.com.

What we have at ‘Hypnosis for Download’ are well over 200 evergreen products to promote. They are audios and videos that are downloadable and sell worldwide – with immediate delivery.

Ideal evergreen products – great value and we have  zero refunds.
Digital for immediate Delivery –
Good products, worldwide audience.

Now obviously I can advertise the website and sell the products myself – and I do – but my aim is much more ambitious than that.

I WANT to welcome some affiliates, BECAUSE promotion by others is preferable and adds social proof.

My original approach to get affiliates seemed sensible but in reality I was wrong – and I realised I needed to change my approach.

What was my mistake?

I assumed that the best affiliates would be hypnotherapists as they would have the knowledge of the subject and would be able to pre-sell potential purchasers. 

That may well be true – BUT what most of them didn’t have was the internet marketing training and knowledge.  Most of them did not know how to attract traffic, build mailing lists and attract targeted potential clients via social media.

We had a couple of affiliates who made some money but I began to question whether the the affiliates needed to be hypnotherapists. Mmmmmmm !! ??

The  most important thing is that new affiliates need to know all about the products AND have training.

Everything Was Evaluated Early This Year.

 The  conclusions were clear and can be summed up in this short list

  1. The affiliate program software we had used was not great – find better
  2. The problem with the promoting individual products in our store was too complicated – make the affiliate package simpler.
  3. The internet was now very mobile and downloading of products was a nuisance – better to be streamed and deliverable to any internet connected device.
  4. The affiliates on board needed more training – and I was not the best person to provide that – I was already a member of  NAMS and I knew they were the team to work with.
  5. The affiliates do not need to be hypnotherapists – as long as they have some access to the products and understand how to build lists and get traffic etc.
  6. There was no commitment from many potential affiliates that joined and took NO ACTION – so get them to be paying members before offering them affiliate links.
So a new strategy was essential.  It looked formidable AND it has been a lot of work- BUT IT IS NOW all in place and getting the message out there is now the task ahead for me.

I have an online income plan in place and I would like you to join me. 

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OK!  –

HERE IS MY LEARN FROM EXPERIENCE

NEW ONLINE INCOME STRATEGY

THE STEPS and WHY

1. A Streaming Hypnosis Membership (Netflix type approach)
The members have all of the audios and videos available to members.   High Value because £1500 (and rising) worth of audios and videos available on all digital devices with wifi or telephone access anywhere in the world.

2. Simple Affiliate Programme and Recurring Monthly Income.
The great advantage for affiliates is that a membership offers MONTHLY 50% payments.

[SECRET – just see what is on offer – you pay £7.50 to join – get your affiliate code and just ONE new member gets you £3.75 monthly.  Introduce 2 Members and you have FREE Membership.  Oh and of course Multiply that up for monthly income – you can do the maths.] 

So what you may need training.

3. Training – I Strongly Recommend that You Join NAMS Membership.
Above I was writing about NAMS marketing membership.  You can be trained to be a great affiliate for my streaming hypnosis – but of course following David and Jen you will ALSO be able to promote many online products.

[SECRET – The same situation applies.  As a NAMS Insider you will also get the opportunity to be an affiliate – and get 50% commission for new members  – Two new members in and you have FREE training!]

4. Both Affiliate Programmes Are Only Available To Members.
If you want to be a successful (and some affiliates are super successful) then you need to know and enjoy the product you are promoting.  If you are a member you have every opportunity to use the product and speak about it from first hand knowledge.  Your recommendations will be authentic and will ring true. 

To put it bluntly ‘No BS’

hypnosis streaming membership and affiliate opportunity

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1. Hypnosis For Streaming – Three Days

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As I mentioned above I am a member of this group run by David and his daughter Jen. During the 14 Days you will be able to take in the amazing array of resources and training available in the membership area. The Integrity and

I am not suggesting for a moment that you get the internet market training just to promote our products.  The fact is there are countless affilate projects and the training with David will help you acquire the skills.

Don’t forget – you can join and with your affiliate links find potential members (much as I am doing here) to get further income for yourself.   Just two new members and you have your membership covered.

Having been around the scene for many years I can tell you that there is an abundance of poor internet training online. – I can put my hand on my heart and tell you that David and Jen offer the best training resources I have come across online.

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