Hangout in my bedroom. What is that about? Funny story..
I can only categorise this blog under life – and perhaps I should add a section called bizarre. I just love it when things that are unexpected happen – life’s rich tapestry.
[I will make a blog post shortly about a training business in America where I am developing my marketing skills. So no details at the moment.]
However – here is my opening gambit and meeting with David and Jen who head up the business.
I love their approach so much and the way they operate and keep their organisation rolling and growing. There is a set routine and you know where you stand week by week. Every Thursday they have a Question and Answer session with their member-insiders. (It is annoying that their routine conflicted badly with my schedule of playing badminton in that hour – but I have sorted that now)
I was joining my first one of these Q&A sessions yesterday evening. I had so much I wanted to observe. I had already found out that David’s team are using ‘Webinar Jam‘ and ‘Zoom‘ which are hangout/webinar software programs that I wanted to know more about. I knew they also use ‘Infusionsoft’ software and I am wondering whether to move my list from Aweber. I knew they were going to be talking about a dynamic quiz software etc.
So much to look forward to and just sit down and observe and learn.
So the time of the hangout/webinar or whatever you want to call it approached and it was six o’clock in the evening here in the UK. There was bedlam down stairs with my family coming and going – so I went up to my bedroom – set my pillows up – lolled on my bed – nice and comfortable and logged in for the first time to Zoom.
All was good and I could see my little picture at the top as an attendee. Zoom looked pretty cool – but I didn’t want to sit there (or rather loll there) in front of David and Jen the presenters and all the other insiders who I had not met before.
So I clicked on my picture and there was a small menu, and one of the options was ‘Hide’. Good – thought I and clicked that link. There I was safe and sound – I can do what I like and enjoy the session.
It got dark and I had to turn the light on behind me – which was probably good. Why do I mention that?
Well – David started talking to attendees – and still I just observed and listened taking in every word from other insiders.
Then SHOCK – David said and ‘Hello Keith I have unmuted you’ Not sure of the exact words – but that was enough. What!!!
I had been on show, doing goodness knows what, for one hour in front of all of those people.
I had a thousand and one questions – but to say I was unprepared hardly describes it. I waffled on about goodness knows what. I am actually dreading seeing the recording and my comments.
I have been at the internet for ever – I put up my first website in 1994 when it was in its infancy (a story for another day) The internet still surprises me every day. Why don’t I ever learn.
I will put an elastoplast over my laptop camera in future when I don’t want to be seen.
To all the insiders that were there. ‘HELLO – Keith has arrived’.
Weight loss is something that really concerned me for many years. This diet and that diet – I tried so many. Yo yo effect though – I just had to wait a time before the process had to start again.
I did find the answer but more about that in a minute.
One of the things that most struck me was the setting of the target and time to achieve it. Usually achievable as long as the diet was followed. However there was not a real reason for choosing the specific target that was just a weight figure. The real reason I was wanting the loss was clinical as I had high blood pressure. If I had kept a target of reaching a weight where I knew more about the physiological effects would the target have been different.
And what would that target be?
Now I don’t read a journal call Cell Metabolism over breakfast – in fact it is almost impossible to read for 99 per cent of people out there. However there has been a report in there this week about research carried at the University of Washington in the US.
They did some studies on 40 obese people losing weight on diets.
Important weight loss findings:
The first few pounds may be the hardest to shed, but they are by far the best. Obese people only have to lose 5 percent of their body weight to achieve a marked improvement in their health from rejuvenated liver to a low risk of diabetes. The scientists checked their research participants at 5 percent, 10 percent and 15 percent milestones. They recorded a range of health markers including cholesterol, blood sugar, and insulin sensitivity, a key measure of the risk of diabetes.
Oliver Moody in ‘The Times’ reports that Samuel Klein who is director of the university’s centre for human nutrition said this:
“The biggest bang for your buck”
“The guidelines for treating obesity recommend a 5 to 10 percent weight loss, but losing 5 percent of your weight is much easier than losing 10 percent. So it may make more sense for patients to aim at the easier target.”
“If you weigh 200 lbs, you will be doing yourself a favour if you can lose 10 lbs and keep it off. You don’t have to lose 50 lbs to get important health benefits”
The last paragraph contains a very important phrase.
Keeping the Weight Loss – KEEP IT OFF!
The answer for me a few years ago was realising that everything – yes everything was in the mind – I needed a new mindset.
The answer was nothing to do with different foods and calories etc – it was just looking at what I was doing that was affecting the body shape I wanted and the health benefits I needed.
Using a self-hypnosis audio from my friend Adam Eason was the answer. I was able to change a lot of habitual things that were getting in my way.
- My portions on my plate were too large and I would often go up for second helpings. Eating until I felt full (that is actually uncomfortable) and eating too fast.
- Snacking in between meals – enough said aren’t all those snacks just full of sugar.
- Using the wrong cook books. Why are my two most thumbed books now by Dave Myers and Si King – The Hairy Dieters.
- As for puddings I started by cutting them down in size but in time I began to feel that I didn’t want them and they became quite unpalatable. Just bizarre – I don’t even want sticky puddings any more.
- When I see James Martin on Saturday Kitchen adding more butter to his meal I just think UGGHH!
So that is that – I don’t really now have to think about it at all – I have just acquired new good habits. I am habitually weight sorted.
I really do think that self-hypnosis and thinking about your particular habits that are controlling your weight for you can be your helper.
To get hold of Adam Eason please check out – ‘Mind Your Weight’
The first 5 per cent is all you need worry about – that is great news.
As usual on Sunday I was listening to Sportsweek on Radio 5 and Gary Richardson was interviewing Micky Mellon the manager of Shrewsbury – the minnows who are playing Manchester today in the FA Cup.
What a great interview with this great character and thinker. Charles Darwin was from Shrewsbury and a quote from him describes the football Micky wants – “Survival of the fittest and strongest”
Micky Mellon uses the community to Motivate
Connecting with the local community is central to Mellon’s approach. It’s why he has sent striker Jean-Louis Akpa Akpro into a local school to teach French.
He is actually quite shocked and disappointed that some of his players are actually Manchester United fans. So he has had to overcome some of this with other motivational approach.
Using people from the community is his method. Shrewsbury based people and ideally Shrewsbury fans.
‘I got the local pub landlord to tell them what happens on a Saturday night when we get beat. He started laughing and said “it’s empty”. Right, tell them what happens when we win. “It’s like Magaluf —and, by the way, on Sunday it’s mayhem again”.
To force home a point about sticking to a plan, he invited helicopter pilots from nearby RAF Shawbury to share their harrowing stories about serving in Iraq and Afghanistan.
He has sought advice from the Red Arrows to help prepare for different scenarios in a match.
He has had second world war heroes from Shrewsbury to tell their stories.
There is no doubt that hearing stories and anecdotes from people who you admire and who have obviously had to overcome great challenges to get where they are, is a powerful motivational technique.
Hardly surprising then that Micky Mellon is not kidding himself about Shrewsbury’s chances of causing an upset. ‘We play Man United and we have little chance, but as long as we have that we’ll try to build on it,’ he says.
‘We’re playing Man United because we scored in the last minute against Sheffield Wednesday. We talk about stuff like that, it’s no big panic. That’s what we learned from the Red Arrows.’
Hardly surprising then that Micky Mellon is not kidding himself about Shrewsbury’s chances of causing an upset. ‘We play Man United and we have little chance, but as long as we have that we’ll try to build on it,’ he says.
Anyway – I like so many other football fans will be watching the match this evening shouting out for the underdog. Come on Mellon and Shrewsbury!!
My children – bless them – live with their phones for ever in their hands to keep in touch. Yes very much in touch – not only with people they meet daily and are friends with now; but also with people they were with at school, university etc.
How different that is to the way relationships worked in my younger years. People moved into your life depending on your employment and where you were living. To move on to a new job and location really was quite a wrench. Settling down in the new area meant setting up a new set of friends. Unfortunately apart from Christmas cards there were very few contacts with your past.
If I ever did meet up with anyone from my past I actually really appreciated it. Nothing better than catching up and it was probably down to the large amount of wine involved but those catch up events were full of ho ho ho – good old belly laughs.
What a difference the Internet has made though and it came in at a really great time for me – because I was able to not just say goodbye to great friends for ever – but because contact was going to be possible when we came home from working abroad. (still no idea about Facebook of course – more about that in a minute) The point was that I was able to follow up on one of the most important periods of my life – my Oman years – rich with wonderful friendships and stories galore.
I was out working abroad in Muscat, Oman. I was helping set up a nurse training school at Sultan Qaboos University Hospital and my wife was a Sister in charge of a children’s ward. Our daughter Zoe was just one years old when we moved out there and Tom was actually born out in Muscat.
The hospital was being built and we were out there helping to get the new building set up with staff and commissioned. The maternity unit was opened literally the day before my son Tom was born and he was patient number 000000002 and was really lucky. We only just got my wife Babs to the unit in time – no time popping that pod. If the unit had not been open we would have needed to drive some distance to the nearest maternity unit – in fact we wouldn’t have made it.]
Anyone who has worked abroad as an expat will tell you of the friendships in that situation. Incredible!!
Families totally live together and share everything. In Oman – we would get away at the weekends hundreds of miles in four wheel drives across the desserts, mountains, wadis, and coast. No tents – just sleeping on camp beds looking up at stars. I am getting nostalgic just thinking through some crazy lovely experiences.
The other thing was that the expats were from all over the world. So even though we were there for eight years it was obvious that one day we would have to say long tearful goodbyes.
To name just a few: – Helen and Gordon to Australia; Hilary and Jim to Portugal; Asbjorn and Elsbeth to Denmark; Deborah and Andy – USA; Murdo and Maggie – WELL – OH?? they landed in Poole, Dorset just down the road – very nice.
The great thing is that we have kept in touch. Not to chat daily on Skype – in fact that is rare. No it is social media contact – and when it happens it is magic. Doesn’t have to be too much. Just being able to contact easily is all it needs.
However – what about Facebook. I have really got that youngster attitude towards this social media. I get it and use it. I had a phone call from my daughter Zoe this morning, who is currently living in Manchester with her boyfriend Tom. They have been cleaning their flat this morning because a University friend from three years ago is coming over from Finland to stay. Last week Zoe and Tom went to Madrid for the weekend to stay with a friend from university days. Social media is really leading to social mobility of friendships.
However – I am not a youngster and like many other users my age we are adapting social media in other ways.
Above – I mentioned that in the old days – during my young adult years – there were times when you moved on in your life to a new job, that friendships just had to be forgotten. Sometimes those friendship were important at the time. Sadly I only know of the location of two of my school friends – and yet those friendships then were mega important! I really don’t think that will happen any more now that the internet exists and relationships can be much more flexible. There is almost a second level of friendships – important but with different expectations.
What is different for us older facebook users is the ‘What the hell – what have I found here’ gobsmacked moment.
What if one of your old friends surfaces on Facebook out of the blue – many – MANY years later.
Six months ago I was flicking through Facebook when I saw a name that made jump. Kristina was training as a nurse when I knew her – and what a great character she is. She gave up nursing sadly because there was a family business that needed her on board. I say sadly because she was a good caring nurse who was incredible with the patients and a joy to work with and be around. We were friends and moved around in the same circle. Kristina is just a crazy, caring loving person. However – as always in those days we moved on in our directions. Contact stopped.
So what a surprise when I could just sit and catch up on Facebook – all about her brother – her mother had recently passed – but much to my delight I learned that she has recently married.
I haven’t actually contacted her yet – but I really need to say hello because a week or so ago I saw that Kristina and her husband have just been to Muscat Oman, and there is a picture of her husband at Al Bustan hotel. They certainly know how to live as the Al Bustan doesn’t come cheap – it is an amazing building. [I have some photos of it somewhere (somewhere is the word)].
Anyway all my old friends who have gone off of the radar – hope to chat to you soon if I can find you on Facebook. I don’t care where you live I will be off in my motor-home to say hello.
Now I had better say hello to Kristina on Facebook.
Simple questions for you –
How much would you want to get in your hand £10,000?
How much would any charity value that money?
So many of us value money, and need it badly, but also do what we can to help others where and when possible.
If you are at all like me then you will probably understand why I was wanting to throw a snooker cue through the TV this morning as I listened to this:
These are the words from snooker player Ronnie O’Sullivan in an interview after he had passed up the chance of making a total break of 147.[don’t worry if you don’t understand the snooker reference here – that is not the point)]
“I could have gone on the black off that red and possibly got another 147 – you never know it can get twitchy. BUT £10,000 – it’s too cheap. It is a massive achievement getting a 147 and it is worth more than that. Once it goes up, I’ll give it another go”
Yes he sat there and said that… Unbelievable!
On his shirt were his sponsors logos.
The tournament itself also has a big prize.
Too much money and too self absorbed.
Now don’t let me get going on this further myself – no- much better – listen to another snooker professional Ali Carter who was clearly not impressed:-
“I think that he should have made the 147 and given the money to charity – to Cancer Research or Crohn’s Disease Charity or something like that” Carter said “He should have helped somebody out, but he is only thinking of himself again. Unfortunately that is his problem isn’t it” [TICK]
The amount awarded for a 147 break in World Snooker’s prize pot starts at £5000 and goes up £5000 after every tournament in which one is not made.
Clearly money is not the driving force any more with these mega-rich sportsmen so why not add something that they could really feel the value of and motivate them.
Why not make the prize have a charity component. Say that £2500 was for the player and £2500 was for a charity chosen by the player, – increasing as it does now tournament by tournament.
You never know they might give all of the award to charity.
And why not that approach for the hole in one in golf.
Many of my blogs are light hearted, bizarre or whatever; but NOT today.
This is Important and I hope that you will stay with me for a couple of minutes while I am talking passionately about something I care about. In fact we should all care about this as one in four of us will need mental health therapy sometime in our life.
I am hoping that somebody reading this will consider training to be a therapist in the field..
All over the news this morning and in the newspapers there are reports about the Mental Health services here in the UK. I am not at all surprised and have a lifetime of working in several areas of health.
More about that in a moment.
Paul Farmer, the chief executive of ‘Mind’, the charity that has led a review of Mental Health services says that there are “thousands of tragic and unnecessary deaths” with many more lives ruined as people struggled to get the healthcare they need.
What is the size of the problem?
About two million people a year are seen by mental health services and Mr Farmer thinks this needs to increase by a third.
This will include an expansion of talking therapies (such as cognitive behavioural therapy – CBT) to treat 600,000 more people a year, 70,000 children offered help and 30,000 more mothers with post-natal depression.
The report is being accepted by the Government and Simon Stevens, the chief executive of NHS England pledged to commit extra £1billion to mental health.
About 400,000 of those offered extra therapy will be people with long-term physical conditions such as cancer or arthritis struggling with depression, anxiety and relationship problems as a result of their illness.
Maureen Baker, chairwoman of the Royal College of GPs said “That we would like to ensure every GP practice has easy access to trained mental health services such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and other talking therapies”.
So how many people do you know who have?:
- Panic Attacks,
- Eating Issues
- Low Self-Esteem
That list is tiny -the funny this is that I am always at a loss where to stop with issues that can be helped with Hypnotherapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. It doesn’t matter – the point is that so much of health is related to what is going in our mind.
So why my interest – why am a passionate about this?
I worked in nursing for 34 years and was always interested in the connection between the physical and mental approach to recovery from disease of surgery. It was easy to see that people with a positive mindset recovered quicker than those that were negative. Easy to see but in the everyday life of the ward impossible to research.
That was just one notable observation – but there were many more but not enough time to research and verify them.
How things have changed though – I am now involved through my work with a hypnotherapist – indirectly in the mental side of health rather then the physical.
I left nursing in 1996 to set up a web design and marketing company (a long story). The companies I most liked working with were health related for obvious background reasons.
Then I met Adam Eason – a Hypnotherapist who was also training new hypnotherapists. As we worked together I got to video his hypnotherapy training for use on our website. Adam’s teaching on the Hypnotherapy Training course taught me so much more about the physical / health approach to care. It is research based and his hypnotherapy is based around Cognitive Behavioural Therapy the whole approach significantly follows my nursing psychiatric training.
I have seen so many of Adam’s students develop into Hypnotherapists and Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapists. They are now in a great position to help with this new mental health initiative to provide additional therapeutic resources.
My reason for writing this blog post today is to ask you a question.
What are you doing in your life?
Could you train for a really worthwhile career as a Hypnotherapist or Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist?
Many of the hypnotherapists I have met have trained because they have used hypnotherapy for their own issues. Adam Eason originally started his career because he had a physical condition (psoriasis) which was treated with hypnosis.
Physical condition – mental solution – How interesting is that?
If you want my guidance at all – I can tell you, just how wonderful it is having a career that really helps people. There is a massive MASSIVE need. You will get so much out of your work if you can help individuals – nothing is more rewarding. Just take my word for it.
What is great is that you can start to train TODAY
Please do take a look at http://aecollegeofhypnosis.uk and get your prospectus for Hypnotherapy Practitioner Diploma (HPD) course or if you are already a hypnotherapist then there is a Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist (CBH) course.
If you get a prospectus and have further questions – you will find my contact details in there – do please feel free to call me to talk about this as a career. Just take a look – it might be a call for you to do something new and really worthwhile.