It seems natural to us to be compassionate towards others, but why is it we often lose that ability when dealing with ourselves. Perhaps this is an area that should be dealt with in our search for self-development.
I am fascinated about self-development in all of its shapes and forms and have tried and used many systems in my own development. Let’s admit it we all need a confidence or self-esteem boost every now and again especially in today’s fast paced, must succeed lifestyle. But a little word of warning if you considering a little self-development of your own for the first time.
Most, not all, but most self-development systems forget the self-compassion aspect. The self-compassion you are going to need when things don’t work out as quickly or as well as you had hoped. You will have been focusing on all the so called power statements like; I can be successful, I will be successful, I am successful, etc, etc. But about when you are not successful at the first, second or third attempt?
If you are anything like me you will get frustrated, even angry with yourself. You will blame yourself for not being a success and beat yourself up about it, and this is where the self-compassion comes in. The bit the book or whatever you are using won’t explain because it will only be focussed on your success to achieve, not your failure to achieve.
So here is a tip you can use if you find yourself in this situation. Imagine how you would feel and act if your best friend told you that they had just failed at something they had really desired to succeed at and it was entirely their fault because they are not good enough or clever enough and therefore didn’t deserve to succeed anyway.
I’ll tell you how you will feel, you will feel compassionate. You will share your compassion and do your best to make them feel better. Telling them they are worthy and capable of success, they just need to have a bit of patience and everything will work out fine.
Remember that the next time you think you are not good enough at something and instead of beating yourself up over it; try a little self-compassion, because compassion and self-development should always go hand in hand.
Author: Guest Writer – Steve Tallamy who recommends “High Self-Esteem In 21 Days” by Adam Eason
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About Keith Watson
Hi - I am Keith Watson.
This blog is dedicated to Banger - a teacher from my teenage years who - at least once a week - insisted upon cracking the hilarious - and I have to say - never heard before line "What's on Watson?".
I would smile demurely - the rest of the class would fall about with sides aching - and life would go on for another week.
'Wats-on My Mind' I have decided will assist me personally as well as be of interest to others (I hope) who share my challenges. It will help keep me organised and document my activities so that I know what I did yesterday.
You think I am joking!!
I have been in the website development game since 1993 and have been involved with over 2000 website builds (with the help of my fantastic team of freelance programmers)
It was only in the last two years though that I have moved over to making money for myself on line and in particular linking up with an amazing talent called Adam Eason to produce and distribute self help and hypnotherapy products.
As a result of looking to promote these products I have downloaded hundreds of internet marketing articles and e-books, studied countless reports, tested list building tactics, butterflied, boot-camped, buzzed, adsensed, affiliated, met a jerk, jv'ed, plr given-awayed, and generally suffered from information overload.
My computer - presumably in a fit of pique or simply demanding a holiday has given up the ghost on at least two occassions - causing me even more stress.
Oh this simple business of making money online.
BUT the great news is that it is all working and our list has grown - I have found some gurus I have complete faith in - and Adam and I are actually making money from our endeavours.
Some way to go but I am more relaxed and can spot a phoney over hyped, sexed up, must have latest product which you must either buy or if not, simply fade into oblivion. There’s not room on this Internet for the two of us.
This ramble of an introduction is really to set the scene for I am sure an interesting journey which I invite you to join. In fact I want you to help me find the right tools, scripts, plugins etc. etc, that will catapult me into the stratosphere of success. I hope you will be there with me.
I don't just consider success in a monetary sense. I so want to help some friends of mine who are involved in Christian missionary work in some pretty harrowing parts of this world. If I can bring any help to their missions that will give me more satisfaction than anything else.
I really, really do love this web stuff and the people you meet. I am convinced that this powerful technology can be harnessed to do some good.
